Tips, Tricks and Products for Performing Mind-Blowing Oral Every Time
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These days, if you want to get your partner off, it’s going to take more than a few hearty thrusts.
Research found that only 18 percent of women ages 18 to 94 can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. Nearly 37 percent of women needed clitoral stimulation to climax, and another 36 percent said that, while they didn’t need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, it enhanced the experience. The Iranian Singles takeaway? More mouth stuff is never a bad thing.
On that front, there seems to be a shortage when it comes to men delivering. Research published in the “Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality” found that heterosexual women are two times more likely to perform oral sex than men, even though they enjoy it less. What’s more, a survey from Cunni, an oral sex toy that never saw the light of day due to a lack of funding, found that 59 percent of men ages 21 to 45 don’t know what their partner even likes when receiving oral sex.
While communication is usually the best way to find out someone’s interests in the bedroom, introducing the topic can be tough – only 30 percent of women feel comfortable telling their partner what they need to orgasm.
What Is Oral Sex?
“Oral sex is oral-vaginal sex (cunnilingus), oral-penile sex (fellatio) and oral-anal sex (anilingus or rimming),” says Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, LELO Sexpert and NYU professor of Human Sexuality.
Nibbling, sucking, licking – if you’re using your mouth, lips and/or tongue to stimulate the genitals, you are practicing oral sex. If you’re doing well is a whole other story, but more on that later.
Why Is Oral Sex Important in Our Culture?
Oral sex feels great and primes the body for penetrative sex, helping women self-lubricate and men become erect. If that weren’t enough, it’s good for our bodies as well.
“Sexual activity increases blood flow, resulting in lower blood pressure and decreased stress levels,” states Antonia Hall, psychologist and author of “The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life” and the “Sexy Little Guide” book series. “Regular blood flow to the genitals helps keep them healthy and functional.”
Many believe oral sex helps them feel more connected to their partner, and if you’re someone who takes no issue in swallowing, semen contains spermatozoa, oxytocin and serotonin, all of which can elevate moods. It also contains melatonin, commonly used to help with sleep … so it’s basically a multivitamin.
The Best Tips for Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus has a reputation of being one of the most difficult sexual acts to perform. Why? Well, it’s in part due to the female orgasm’s label as both elusive and complicated. But as that just sounds like an excuse to be mediocre, which is not an adjective we’d like associated with our lovemaking skills, here are some go-to tips when attempting to perform oral sex on her.
Get Comfortable Before You Start
“Adding a pillow under the hips and butt can make cunnilingus easier for the giver and more pleasurable for the receiver,” says Hall.
Be Sure to Go Slow
“Tease it, make it beg for you to touch the clit,” suggests Vrangalova. “Most clits are different from most penises, they don’t like to be handled much until they get a bit aroused already.”
Hall recommends using the tip of your tongue and lips to tease the inner thighs and along the pelvic bone.