So, I really narrowed my search by choosing an age range considerably lower than my own and by clearly stating that I am an atheist. Catholicism is the norm in the Philippines, although there are other Christian denominations and there are Muslims. I also chose only those who do not have children. I think it’s important to have a good talk with yourself before doing this. There would be no point in me attracting middle-aged women with children, when I don’t see any chance of going in that direction.
So I made the profile, I paid a very small amount of money and joined. I was flooded with hundreds of messages. Many were sort of a cut-and-paste thing that I suspect they are sending too many people. You are so handsome or I found your profile very interesting, came up so often that I’m assuming they know what works on simple-minded men. But, there were also many sincere messages of interest and well written messages.
It’s quite a daunting task, when you consider the gravity of the situation, since I’m looking for a lifelong partner
The Cascade of messages consumed a lot of my time for a few days. Most of them tried to move me quickly to email, Skype or Whatsapp. That’s because they know that men can become very distracted by all of the pretty faces that are constantly visible on the website. I was involved in a pleasant exchange with one woman, and about 7 messages telling me that I was someone’s favorite, interrupted our discussion as the photo came into view on my screen.
I asked if she actually believe that Eve talked to a snake or the Red Sea was parted
But when I looked at these many messages and the profiles associated, it was clear to me that many had not really read what I had to say. Women who describe themselves as very devout Catholics who would only be interested in another Catholic, where amongst those who showed interest. There were also many that went well beyond the age parameter I had set. There were probably 200 children if you added them all up.
But still, after all of that initial sorting, there were still probably 40 young women who matched most of what I was looking for and when I looked into their profiles, I matched what they were looking for.
I buckled down and started cranking out one message after another. I often had to go back and read previous messages, to make sure that I wasn’t talking to a girl about something that some other girl had said. This must be what it’s like for serial philanderers. Trying to keep track of a dozen conversations at once. It was quite a process. I was very careful to not make any promises or to agree to any sort of exclusivity.
Now I have narrowed it down to one, and I have covered up my profile picture and changed my message to reflect that. . At least not in the beginning. But it is important to communicate well. One of the first things we dealt with was Catholicism. She said, I’m an educated woman, of course I don’t believe those things. But she also said that she would never tell older members of the family, and that if I meet them I shouldn’t. I can do that.
So it’s early days for me again. I’ve always had a fairly simple strategy, attract them in any way I can and then overwhelm them with my brilliance. I am either quickly labeled as a very cocky know-it-all or as potential husband material. Also a sorting mechanism.